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How To Speak To The Family In Mourning At A Funeral Service

Posted by on Jul 28, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on How To Speak To The Family In Mourning At A Funeral Service

When you attend a funeral service with your family, the simple act of showing up to the event demonstrates your support for the family in mourning. Although your presence means something, your words of sympathy are also important to share with those in grief. When it comes to speaking to the family, less is often more. Many people can often feel the need to say too much — and, in the process, potentially say something that sounds insensitive despite the best intentions. Before you visit your next funeral service, here’s what to know about how to speak to the family. The Basics Keep your message to the family in mourning as succinct as possible. After all, you don’t want to compromise the family’s time when many other attendees are also waiting to share their messages of sympathy. Conveying that you’re sorry for the family’s loss is the main point you want to get across, while also sharing that you’re keeping the family in your thoughts. It’s perfectly acceptable to simply say, “I’m so sorry for your loss and I’m thinking about you during this difficult time.” Although you can also share a short anecdote about the person who has passed away, your main priority is to express your condolences and to do so briefly. The Offer Of Assistance Offering your assistance to the family is a kind gesture at the funeral service. Instead of asking if there’s anything you can do to help out, it’s more effective to brainstorm some specific areas in which you might be able to be helpful. For example, you could ask if you could deliver a home-cooked meal to the family in the coming days or take care of the family’s school-aged children for a weekend to give the parents time to deal with the estate of their deceased family member. If the family is too grief-stricken to hold a conversation about receiving help, ask if you can call someone in a couple days to discuss your offer. Phrases To Avoid If you feel uncomfortable at the funeral or unsure what to say, remember to keep your conversation with the family short. Nervously talking too much puts you at risk of saying a phrase that might hurt the family, such as expressing that everything happens for a reason or that the family member is now in a better place. These sentiments can sound hurtful, especially when the family is in grief and might be feeling sensitive.  For more information, contact Christmans Funeral Home Inc. or a similar...

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Should You Try to Lose Weight to Fit into a Wedding Dress?

Posted by on Jun 5, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Should You Try to Lose Weight to Fit into a Wedding Dress?

After weeks of traipsing from one bridal shop after another looking at hundreds (if not thousands) of dresses, you finally find the gown of your dreams. Problem is, it either fits too tightly or the shop doesn’t have the dress in your size. In this situation, many brides consider losing a few pounds so they can fit into the dress they want, but is this really a good strategy? Here are a couple of things you should consider before you start your wedding weight loss journey. Do You Have the Discipline to Stick to a Routine? If you’ve tried losing weight before, then you already know how challenging it can be. According to some statistics, the diet failure rate in the United States is 90 to 95 percent. Additionally, the longer it is to your wedding date, the harder it may be to stick to your diet and exercise plan. One study found that, though people lost up to 10 percent of their body weight within 6 months of starting a diet, up to two-thirds of the study’s participants gained the weight back within two to three years. According to some social psychologists, people tend to overestimate their own competence. Therefore, it’s critical that you be brutally honest with yourself about whether or not you have the discipline to stick to a diet and exercise routine. You should factor in the reality that you’ll be planning a wedding at the same time, the stress of which can cause you to sabotage your weight loss progress. The last thing you want to have happen is to quit before you reach the finish line and be forced to choose a different dress at the last minute. How Much Weight Do You Want to Lose? The Center for Disease Control, and most health experts, recommends losing only 1 to 2 pounds per week. Not only are you more likely to keep the weight off long term, trying to lose more than that per week can be harmful. Depending on your starting weight, losing more than 2 pounds per week may require severe calorie restrictions or excessive amounts of exercise, both of which can ultimately be counterproductive or lead to injury. It’s a good idea to calculate the amount of weight you’re likely to lose in the weeks leading up to the last fitting to your dress. If you’re able to reach your goal based on the 1 to 2 pound loss recommendation, then losing weight to fit in the dress may be a good option. If not, then you may want to consider getting a different dress. If you need help deciding what to do or want assistance getting your dress to fit comfortably, talk to an expert at a bridal shop like Bridal...

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3 Steps To Help You Determine If You Should Become A Foster Parent

Posted by on Apr 3, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on 3 Steps To Help You Determine If You Should Become A Foster Parent

If you have a big heart for kids and enough space in your home, you might want to take on the challenge and responsibility of becoming a foster parent. Foster parenting is not always an easy task, but it can be extremely rewarding. Before you rush into this, you may want to take some steps to find out if you have what it takes to be a foster parent. Here are three steps you can take to accomplish this: Attend classes Before you can become a foster parent, you will need to go through an entire application process. This process is designed to make sure that foster parents are qualified for the job, and one part of the process is taking classes that relate to foster parenting. These classes teach many things: What it means to be a foster parent The challenges you may face by doing this The benefits and rewards it offers What you will need to do to become a foster parent Taking foster parenting classes is one of the best ways to find out more about this, and this could help you determine if foster parenting is right for you. Talk to other foster parents If you know other people that are foster parents, talk to them about this subject. Find out the pros and cons of it and ask questions. If you do not know any foster parents, look for a support group in your area that is designed for foster parents. Attending a support group meeting is an ideal way to learn what fostering kids is all about. Give it a try After learning more about fostering, you might still be unsure about whether you should do this or not, but it wouldn’t hurt to give it a try. When you sign up to be a foster parent, you will not be legally obligated to continue doing this. The agencies that handle foster assignments will not want to place kids in homes where the kids will not be wanted. By giving it a try, you may discover that this is something you really love and want to continue doing, or you might find that this is not the right task for you to handle. To learn more about this, contact an agency in your area that specializes in foster care. Talking to the agency will not obligate you, but it may offer the extra information you need to make your decision. To learn more, contact a company like Our Children’s Homestead for...

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Adoption Profiles: What You Need To Know

Posted by on Dec 11, 2014 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Adoption Profiles: What You Need To Know

Have you ever wondered how you would market yourself or your family? It may sound like a silly question, but if you are on the path to adoption it is something that you will soon be considering and putting into practice as you prepare your adoption profile to share with prospective birth mothers. This task may seem overwhelming and leave you feeling adrift as you sort through photos, templates, and ideas. Before you finalize your book, there are some things to remember. Less is More You may want to include every picture you have ever taken of yourself and/or your spouse, from your first meeting, wedding photos, and those pictures from last Halloween’s costume party. Remember that sometimes less is more. Brainstorm with your partner and agency liaison to determine which photos you should include and those that are best left in the dark.  You want to create a picture of your home, life, and family for prospective birth families, but you do not want to overwhelm them.  Personal vs. Private While you want to give prospective birth families a clear picture of your life, you should also be careful of oversharing information. Photos that show your home’s address or other identifying information such as your children’s school, your place of employment, etc. should not be used in your profile book. Even if you plan to have an open adoption, remember these books are being shown to families who you know nothing about and have not formed a relationship with.  Posed Photos vs. Natural A few professional pictures will add a bit of class to your profile, but you also want to include photos that are more casual and natural and give a better sense of your personality that posed studio photos can provide.  Things to Avoid While you want to be open with prospective matches, you also do not want to overload them with information. If your faith is important to you, you will of course want to include a reference to that, but you need to remember that the families viewing your profile may not have the same beliefs and may not understand its importance to you.  You also will want to refrain from including political viewpoints or other issues that could be construed in a negative light.  It would also be a good idea not to include any references to working too much, being too busy, or anything else that a prospective birth mother or father could view as an obstacle to your having enough time to parent.  The biggest thing to remember when preparing your profile is that you want to be real and present yourself in a natural light, a family that a prospective birth family can connect to and trust with their son or daughter. For more tips about the adoption process, contact a company like Hope’s...

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3 Ways To Save Money On Funeral Costs

Posted by on Nov 16, 2014 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on 3 Ways To Save Money On Funeral Costs

Whether there was a life insurance policy or not, you might want to make sure that you are saving as much money as you possibly can. This way, there will be more money for other things, such as final bills or the raising of a family. No matter what your reason is for wanting to save money, you might want to check out the following three ways to save money on the cost of a funeral. Purchase A Casket Somewhere Else There are a lot of people who naturally assume that you have to purchase the casket from the funeral home. While this can certainly be extremely convenient, it is not always the most affordable option. Remember, at the end of the day, funeral homes, such as Holcombe-Fisher Funeral Home, is a business and they have to make money to cover their costs. However, should your goal be to save money, you might want to look for caskets for sale from private owners or even big chain stores. Yes, believe it or not, there are now some major retailers that sell caskets through their websites. Skip The Flowers Flowers can be incredibly expensive so you might want to skip out on purchasing an overload of them for the funeral. Instead of flowers, consider more pictures of happier times when your loved one was still with you. You can also request that those who would have liked to send flowers to the funeral home send monetary donations to a charitable cause or to a fund for any surviving minor children. Keep The Viewing Days Minimal If you do not have friends and family flying in from all over the world, you might be able to get away with a single day for the viewing. Each day that the viewing room is used is an additional fee that you have to pay. In order to help make sure that as many people can visit as possible, you could always delay the funeral arrangements by a day or so in order to allow people to figure a way to make it for the viewing or at least the burial. As you can see, there are a few good ways to make sure that you are saving as much money as possible. If you make use of all these tips, as well as any other ideas you can think of, you should be able to save a substantial amount of money. If you have a caring funeral director, he or she might even be able to give you a few suggestions. After all, the funeral director is the person with the most experience when it comes to the costs of a...

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4 Myths About Placing A Child For Adoption

Posted by on Nov 4, 2014 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on 4 Myths About Placing A Child For Adoption

The decision to terminate your parental rights and place your baby in an adoptive family is one that is very emotional and difficult to make. If you are considering this option, you will want to have all the facts so that you really understand the choice you are making.  You give up control.  Many years ago, biological parents had no rights when placing a baby for adoption. You may have heard horror stories about birth mothers who were not given the option of changing their minds after their babies were born or whose babies were whisked away with no information given.  The adoption process has evolved over time. In today’s adoptions, birth mothers (and even birth fathers) can have as much control as they want. As a birth parent, you can look through books potential adoptive families have made about their lives and choose your child’s parents. You can decide if you want to speak with or meet potential parents. You can even create an agreement with adoptive parents that you will be given the opportunity to view pictures of, speak to, or visit your biological child throughout that child’s life.  You also have the option of not choosing the adoptive parents and of not having them no who you are.  Adoptive families want white children.  You will find unlimited numbers of potential adoptive families who will want to love your child, no matter the racial or ethnic background. Adoptive parents want to love and raise a child. This includes white children as well as children who are African American, bi-racial or any combination of races.  Being adopted will hurt the child.  Being adopted can certainly have challenges, and adopted children will need to be supported as they learn about their adoptions and what it means to be raised by non-biological parents. However, adopted children are just as likely to be happy and productive people as non-adopted children are. When children are raised by parents who are honest about adoption and not intimidated by sharing a child’s background, that child can easily be confident and loving people who have the potential to do anything.  It’s the easy way out. Placing a child for adoption is not an easy choice. In fact, it might be the most difficult decision you ever make. By choosing to place your child with an adoptive family, you are making a personal sacrifice to give your child a better life. You should not feel pressured to place your child for adoption if that’s not what you want, and you shouldn’t feel pressured to parent a child when you aren’t ready. Placing a child in an adoptive home is one of the most loving and selfless choices a person can make. It is certainly not easy.  There is a great deal of misinformation about adoption. If you are considering placing a baby for adoption, you should have factual information to make the best choice for you and your child. Contact a professional, such as A Child’s Dream, for more...

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